I like to hope that most young adults are having the condom conversation before having sex. Most know that condoms prevent pregnancy when used properly, as well as prevent the spread of sexually transmitted infections or (STIs). Every year, 1 in 4 teens will contract an STI, which is a very moving statistic, so I like to think that ladies are informed about these statistics, as well as understand that there are ways for females to feel they have more control over these decisions!
I have encountered many males romantically, as well as platonically that decide to attach a stigma around male condoms. Well that’s just fine if they decide that is how they feel because everyone is entitled to decisions about their sex life!
However, not all 20 something women are aware that there is a FEMALE solution to these problems, and a way to take control of your sex life, while taking charge of your own protection. What’s the secret to this female empowerment in the bedroom, the female condom (FC2), also known as the receptive condom. Below are some of the most common excuses males use to deter condom use, and how the FC2 is able to answer these questions with zest!
“Do I have to wear one, I don’t want to ruin the moment?”
“You don’t have to wear one, I already have mine in!”
*The FC2 can be inserted several hours before intercourse and the material is specifically made to warm to the body, so if your partner is a male, and has an issue wearing a condom- no worries, you’ve got it under control.
“You’re on the pill, right?”
“Are you on the pill?”
*Well, condoms have more than one purpose and preventing the spread of STIs is a major function, not to mention it is impolite to assume all women are on some form of birth control. The prevention of pregnancy and STIs during sexual activities should be an equally shared activity. However, the FC2 prevents both pregnancy, and STIs!
“I’ll pull out, I swear”
“I trust you, but I also want to still use protection, and you can still pull out if you want”
*First we can circle back to the discussion of condoms preventing STIs, and the pullout or withdrawal method does not protect against STIs or HIVs in anyway. Personally, when I think of the withdrawal method I think, do I really want my partner in complete control of possibly impregnating me? Withdrawal is only 78% effective, and if I was a betting person, I would not bet on those odds. Whereas the female condom, I completely control, my partner does not have to do anything, or be focused on pulling out. Instead, if my partner decides to pull out because they enjoy that, great! And I can still be protected.
“Not a problem, the FC2 is made of either polyurethane, or nitrile”
*Now I understand all females may not be completely comfortable with that lingo, but basically the FC2 is not made out of latex, so if your partner is using that as an excuse you have an answer, as well as if your partner actually has a latex allergy the FC2 is a great alternative to latex condoms. Polyurethane and nitrile are also thicker than latex, so the material has less of a chance of breaking than a male condom, and can be used with oil-based lube, whereas male condoms should only be used with water-based lubricant.
“Condoms don’t fit me”
“The female condom adheres to my body, so you won’t be restricted”
*To also answer this question, while working as a sexpert with trojan I have seen condoms go through an excessive amount of testing, and I can fit a regular sized condom (not magnum) from my hand to elbow without breaking (that is a little larger than 12inches). However, if your partner still feels their package is too large, the FC2 can answer that question.
Now to remember some basic sexual health tips, you never want to use a condom more than once, and you never want to use a male condom and a female condom at the same time. Female condoms are available for purchase at most Walgreens, as well as online through Amazon and are comparable to price in male condoms. However, I encourage all sexually active individuals to visit their local health department to snag some condoms cost free.
Some locations in Chicago that provide free resources (including free STI testing):
Howard Brown Health Center: 4025 N. Sheridan Road
Center On Halsted: 3656 N. Halsted Street
Broadway Youth Center: 615 W. Wellington Street
Some of my personal favorite sexual health education sites are listed below as well if you are interested in more information: